Category: Life by Design (Page 19 of 20)

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How Choices Make You Happier

I’ve learned a really difficult lesson this year. Among many tough realizations, I’ve learned that choices are healthy.

Having many options to choose from, reviewing them, making a commitment to a choice and sticking to it. It’s all part of a very intentional process. It’s a process that fosters awareness and cultivates mindfulness.

I’m someone who likes to learn a LOT, do a LOT, be everywhere, travel to new places, master skills right away… and of course, this isn’t possible simultaneously. Most people need to work at refining their skills, as do I. Most people learn over time and practice. I’m no exception. I often wish I could just *know* something already.

Can’t I just, hold this guide book against my forehead and absorb it?

We can travel many places, but not all at once. We can only be in one place at a time. I think that this “buffer” between our minds and our immediate realities is healthy. It often protects us from wasting time and energy doing things we’d truly regret or it helps us avoid doing something that would keep us from doing something we’d love more. I suppose, this could also be linked to “manifesting”. This teaches me patience and not to “rush” life, because here and now is what I’ve got..

Probably that one of the best examples where I have difficulty choosing in my life is in my relationship with books. I love them! I want to read them all! I want to know the stories of the world! I am easily distracted when it comes to which books to read, because each book is a story that is fascinating and full of adventure, hope and opportunity. I have a reading problem… I read many, many books at once. Although, in itself, this isn’t a problem, what is an issue is that if I start a novel or a non-fiction book, I need to make it to the end. I need to consciously choose to make that my “main” read at one time. Otherwise, I’ll never finish it.

yogagirl_US-coverMy friends have this running joke that I’ll never finish reading Le Parfum, by Patrick Suskind. It’s true! At this point, I’ve given up. I just don’t like it enough. I’m choosing to commit to other books that are either more my idea of “light reading” or more my idea of “inspirational reading”. Right now, I’m reading Yoga Girl by Rachel Brathen (non-fiction) and I’m finishing up the first book in the Beautiful Creatures (fiction) series. I know… Everyone needs variety!

Money, money, money…

This year, I’ve also learned how to properly budget, despite being close to 30. I guess you could call me a financial late bloomer. How did I ever get by without using this basic skill? Apparently, I’m not the only woman, or the only Gen Y for that matter.

Money is a great servant but a terrible master.

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You Need A Budget – Great App!

Learning how to manage my own money has been a step in self-care, acceptance and love. I am worthy of a stress-free financial life. For me, this meant re-evaluating my needs, my lifestyle preferences and my medium and long-term goals. For me, it meant making a new habit and loving what it did for me. I guess you could call it my little financial fitness awakening.

We’ve all heard “You can’t have it all”. Actually… real life for go-getters goes more like this:

“You can’t have it all at once, but you can have most of what you want, *if* you think differently about how that looks for you.”

Then what do we want most and how do we enjoy it?

Knowing I can’t possibly be everywhere, do everything, know everything, own everything…it releases the pressure of expectations I set for myself. Without pressure, there’s freedom. With freedom, there’s responsibility. My responsibility is to myself to build a life that reflects who I am and what I love. For me, it means buying less to do more, scheduling less to leave room for spontaneity and tea with friends.

Our choices lead us to experiences that cost us time, energy and limit us to a space in time. No one knows how long they’ve really got on Earth. Some of our choices also cost us in dollars. This seemingly adds another layer to our decision-making. In truth, no matter the factors to consider, the steps should lead back to us, to our centre. Don’t we want our lives to be our works of art? Don’t we want our lives to be a reflection of who truly are inside? In essence, the process enhances mindfulness.

What matters to me right now? Does this decision respect my core values?

Someone who can make choices with which he or she is at peace is leads his or her life artfully, from their heart-centre. Commitment easily follows choices that honour our personal truths. Having to make choices helps me refocus as I come back to my values, priorities and goals.

When we chose consciously, we better appreciate what we have and ultimately, we know ourselves better.

Returning to Reiki – A Decade Wiser

When I was 18, I followed my mother to a reiki training. Little did I know then, I would be introduced to one of the simplest, most powerful healing methods.

At the time, the workshop had a mystical draw for me and it was just something cool I was doing. I was dabbling if you will, with energy. I didn’t realize the gift I had been given. I mean, I knew it was a gift, from the ceremony accompanying the attunement, which is a rite of passage for reiki practitioners. I didn’t, however, make the connection between this method and its application in my life. At best, I thought it might help me meditate or ease the symptoms of a bad cold. At worst, I thought I’d have spent an afternoon fiddling with hocus pocus.

reiki principlesOver the years, I’ve tried to apply the principles of reiki and I’ve reinforced my connection in small, sporadic practices. I occasionally blessed situations and others, but I mostly used reiki on myself and on loved ones. I would use reiki in extreme situations as well, including when I’d injure myself dancing. On a few occasions, my reiki provided my mother with relief from severe pain. When she injured her shoulder (torn ligament from calcium deposit and malpractice from a physiotherapist), neither of us knew what to do to relieve her pain until we got her to see a doctor. I resorted to reiki. Then, most recently, I treated my mom with reiki during her cancer treatment (radiation and chemo double whammy) and leading up to her abdominal surgery.

Without getting into the personal details of her situation, what I’ve realized is that whether benefits-of-energy-healingor not I truly understood reiki, it was indeed powerful. It could bring relief, relaxation and speed a natural healing process. This was my own personal observation. And I was someone who had been blissfully unaware of how important reiki could be in my life and of how many people I could help with it. I hadn’t quite figured out what it meant to be an energy practitioner, whether the method were reiki or another such as qi gong or shamanic healing.

Being an energy practitioner (or healer) is accepting to be a channel. It is a vocation of service. It’s access to a great source of power, available to all who seek it, and it is a duty to use it for the greater good and overall wellness. As one of my favourite Marvel heroes has once said: “With great power comes great responsibility.”

Mikao Usui

Mikao Usui – Founder of Reiki as we know it today.

And so, here I am, a decade after being introduced to Mikao Usui’s method and its benefits and I realize I have been living unconsciously, in the dark. I have been neglecting my responsibility as much as my gift. I have decided to fully embrace reiki by committing to a daily practice. If I do not treat someone actively, I at least meditate on my role as a channel, as a practitioner. I fill my body with light, reinforcing my connection. I ask to be given the awareness and the courage to follow the principles. I humbly ask to become an example of light, love and healing. I ask to understand how I can bring the best of myself and of my role as a reiki practitioner to every situation.

This newly formed commitment is but a few months old. Yet, I’ve made positive changes in my life and my perspective has changed. My faith in myself, in the Universe and in others has grown. I feel lighter and stronger simultaneously.

Reiki Symbols

Common Reiki Symbols

A month ago, I was guided to redo my first level of reiki attunement. My place was secured at the last minute. I wasn’t even sure I could attend, seeing as we were Saturday before close and I didn’t know how I’d be getting to the class (much less how I’d be paying for it). I called the training centre and was informed the reiki master would not have my registration in advance but would be informed there might be a 13th student (me).  As I walked in to the training room on that Sunday morning, the trainer looked at me and asked who I was. Spontaneously, I said: “I’m 13.” The reiki master laughed, because, as she was also an intuitive, her guides were insisting that there would be a 13th student that day, despite there only being 12 registrations on paper. “I made up 13 settings, in case you’d show up. Do you want to give me your name, now that we’ve confirmed that there’s 13 of you?” It would seem I was in the right place at the right time.

Essential Reiki - By Diane Stein

Essential Reiki, by Diane Stein

During my reiki one review, I was guided to listen. It was an exercise in connecting to purpose AND to others. Being curious and truly listening creates an atmosphere of respect and allows for healing of all kinds. I learned new things, which to my surprise, weren’t directly related to traditional reiki. I learned about the relationship with chakras, colours and angels. Being in a class of newbies and “experienced” reiki pracitioners, I also learned a lot about dealing with ego; mine and that of others. This month, I pursue my Reiki II training. It feels like a natural step to further this process.

Reiki is one of those gifts that keeps on giving. Although I thought I knew what reiki was all about, and it was almost this “cute” practice I’d learned about years ago, I still grow from it. I’ve definitely been blinded by its simplicity and I’ve often dismissed it as trivial. The reality is that reiki being a method is only as good as its users. It has immense potential and it is available anywhere, anytime. Reiki is a life force energy that anyone can use, call upon and benefit from. Saying yes to reiki is a way of saying yes to life. I’m accepting this unconditional relationship to life.

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