Category: Shine (Page 18 of 30)

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Craft a Life of Projects

Have you ever thought about your life as linear or seen yourself as a passive actor in your own life? Have you ever wondered the meaning behind a dark time in your life?

These questions occurred to me and I found that looking at my life with the eyes of a creator, of a project person, made me feel more empowered. Whether you want to keep things interesting, you want to keep learning, or you want to create freedom, then I encourage you to craft a life of projects.

I work best with a project format. It helps me focus and be present and fully experience something, a time in my life or a specific event. I always have something going on that I manage at my own pace. I don’t have to commit to it for an indeterminate period. I am challenged, I learn and I accomplish. Then, I get to change it up. I get to move on or walk away when things do not serve or honour me. It’s a truly freeing and mindful way to approach my life.

Although I have habits and a semblance of a routine, I do not do well without change. I need it. I expect it. Most likely because it happens anyway. But I crave the kind of change that stimulates my spirit. That’s also why, for instance, my career history as a Gen Y contractor has worked to my advantage. I got to sample many jobs and experiences and know myself better.

In my twenties, I look back to many projects that highlighted lessons; my university degree versus learning, my communications career versus my calling, my relationships (some breakups, some amazing friendships, and mending family ties) and my (holistic) health.

University and journalism were my first introductions to the working world. I learned about fitting in and standing out, working hard and sometimes not getting rewarded or recognized. I learned about knowledge and wisdom, excitement and disappointment. I learned the difference between ability, experience and passion.

On a personal level, I’ve reconnected with inner longings, such as dance (vitality), reiki (service) and writing. For a while, I created the “swing dance” project in my life when I focused on learning partnership and competing. I also had my “health intervention” project; a time in my life when I was sick and burned out and decided to teach myself how to care for my health through yoga, food, rest and boundaries. Now, I’m working on my “setting sail for my purpose” project.  It’s a big scary adventure and I don’t know every wave, storm or shore, but it’s a journey I’m on. It started with this blog.

“I found that looking at my life with the eyes of a creator, of a project person, empowered me.” ― Bright Star Mercedes   brightstarwoman.com/blog

Our lives take different forms depending on our perspective.  There is a season for everything and a thing for every season. If we start appreciating where we are, which season we’re in, or the project we’re exploring if you will, then we can appreciate the true beauty of the life we’re living. If you see your life as the sum of all its incredible moments, its many seasons and its varied projects, you can appreciate change as much as being still. You start to understand each season’s purpose and you feel successful; this life is yours, every step of the way.

Seeing our lives as meaningful projects that teach us, that stimulate us, that we enjoy, helps us get in synch with nature’s cycles. We can co-create wonderful experiences and choose to learn valuable lessons by treating our lives as our unique work of art, composed of our many creative projects.

How have “projects” made your life more exciting or meaningful to you? Is there an unpleasant experience you could treat as a project to learn from?

Be Still.

Your mind is racing. You’re going through your to-do list (and forgot all about your to-feel list). You’re running late.  You’re worrying about a meeting that went wrong or about an important conversation you’re about to have.

You finally have a few moments to breathe and your body is tense. You feel guilty because you’re slowing down.

Be still.

I know it’s hard; I’m the poster child for busy / productive / efficient. But trust me, try to just be here, right now.

Breathe.

Close your eyes.

Take a deep breath, in through your nose into your belly. Feel it rise. Let it go, feel it fall.

Pay attention to your senses. What are they telling you? Does something smell nice? Do you hear children laughing or a good song?

Listen to your body. How are you, in this moment?

Breathe.

Whatever those answers, everything is fine. You’re ok.

Be Still. Breathe. Right here, right now, you're ok. - Bright Star Mercedes

Be Still.

Try to drop the guilt, get off the hamster wheel and really try to be here, right now. Being still is about making a choice to turn in and listen to ourselves. Do yourself a favour and notice something you enjoy right now. If you can’t feel anything that puts a smile on your face in this moment, then please, go enjoy something (anything!) right now.

Slow down, my friend, because the crazy train will derail if it keeps going faster and faster. You don’t want to be on that train. Step off, jump if you must, but be still.

Turn inward and listen. Be still. How’s it going in there? What do you need?

I need to remind myself that I am enough. Doing more will not make me be more. All the work I do has to bear fruit and be enjoyed. We just celebrated Labour Day, we’ve all worked hard. Go ahead and harvest your efforts in the form of being present, being still.

Do you ever struggle with stillness and if so, how do you accept it? What forms does stillness take for you? What beautiful moments of stillness would you like to share?

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