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A few years ago, I was a bright-eyed entrepreneur-to-be, still caught in my 9-to-5 but committed to leaving my job. I thought it’d be pretty straightforward; come up with an idea, work hard, put in the time and voilà.

When that approach failed, along with my network marketing biz, I hired a business and marketing coach. After months of toiling, I was broke and I had no results to show for any of it.

I respectfully opted out of my biz coaching, and decided I needed to reexamine my priorities and see where I’d gone wrong.

The Inner Work

Through self-awareness, counselling with Elders, guided journeys, meditation, and a yoga and reiki practice, I discovered my wounds, the agreements they lead me to form, and how those agreements kept me playing small, and feeling defeated and unhappy.

I was astounded to realize the ocean of subconscious beliefs and agreements I’d made that no longer served me.

I cried at the unkindness I’d shown myself over the years.

And it hit me.

I never could have succeeded, in any business, or with any amount of business coaching, no matter how great, without doing this personal work. I needed to become aware of the nuts and bolts, the rusty gears and the monkey wrenches in there, keeping me from reaching my full potential.

SPOILER

I did it!!!

Now, I’m in biz and can say I’m proud to work with a biz coach, but frankly, I’d gotten here a lot faster (and a lot cheaper!) with help from someone who could have guide me holistically, hold up a mirror for me, provide healing words and practices and holding space for me.

Because I did it on my own, but realized how my life was transformed, I wanted to offer everything I’d received in one convenient format. That’s when I uncovered my own Element; my skills and experience in teaching and sharing ancient wisdom, and my passion for helping people break their chains intersected harmoniously in a holistic mindset practice.

I truly believe in business coaching, and I’m proof that “doing your personal work” first is not a myth; it has a very real impact on your success.

So tell me, do you think you’ve done a thorough mindset audit? What do you think might trip you up?

Honour student, voted most likely to succeed, college graduate, university scholarship recipient, you’ve got a rock star resume.

Yet, you keep putting off launching your own biz because you get heartburn when you think about being found out…People might see right through you, and know that YOU feel like a fraud.

So you do the only thing you know how to do to deal…

You dive into learning and become the best damn student you’ll ever meet.

You study.
You get certified.
You collect degrees.
You get coaching.
You attend webinars and workshops.
You follow online courses.

And while you had behind the quest for knowledge and skill refinement, you drain your bank account without a working biz to show for it.

I’ve seen it with some of the most brilliant professionals. There’s an underlying need for approval, acceptance, of being legitimized. Sounds familiar?

Guilty As Charged

I’ve been known to collect certifications. I delayed my future in business for YEARS. I had to prove to myself, to others, to doubters and haters, that I was worthy.

I realized what I was doing one day, when my coach asked me:

“Why do you need to take a course, can’t you just do it? Aren’t you already doing it, and a ton other things?”

So here I was, this aware, spiritual person, who’d done a lot of personal work, and who was working in service to others and I was hiding?!?

How freakin’ ironic is that?

How I got over it

I pooled all of my skills, experience, certifications, training and asked myself:

“Doesn’t all of this, make you at least a specialist?
Doesn’t all of this already give you permission?”

I realized I didn’t need to be a seasoned expert to have a place in business. I just needed to be honest about where I was and what I could offer.

After all, perfectionism is just fancy fear.

I then asked myself:

What can I do now, consistently and with confidence?

And I committed to that one thing.

You don’t need to be ‘super #girlboss’, you just need to lead your life from the heart, by example. The only way to do that is to do the best you can at being you, and delivering YOUR genius.

You already have everything you need to succeed inside yourself.

Trust yourself, and shut out the itty bitty shitty committee – they don’t get a vote.

What’s the ONE thing you can DO RIGHT NOW, that you could turn into a biz?

Category: Life by Design (Page 5 of 20)

Thinking of Business Coaching?

The Inner Work

SPOILER

Do You Hide Behind Education?

Guilty As Charged

How I got over it

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